A few days ago, there was an interesting article on a public account, saying that millions of people in Beijing pretend to talk about business every day. The reason why they say they are pretending is that they are fake. Since it is a business, there must be supply and demand. On the basis of trust, both sides of the supply and demand get things done, each gets what he needs, and each gets rewards according to the contract. So why is it fake? It’s because there are too many black belts in karate with the unique skills of white wolves in empty gloves. The buyers will show off and the sellers will take a seat. In the end, the transaction is not completed and it is embarrassing. It is better not to be full of expectations for these so-called relationships in the beginning. .
When I took the mandatory course for licensed immigration consultants, the course instructor was a former visa officer at a Canadian consulate in China. At that time, he asked me a question: How do you think we should do business? I said: You cannot isolate yourself. One person cannot accomplish anything. He immediately showed his bright teeth, smiled slyly, and said nimbly: Gua Xi, Gua Xi, right? I corrected it to: relationship. You can imagine how familiar this Wai Guoren, who has been immersed in China's first-tier cities for ten years, is with China's relationship culture.
But my answer does not mean doing business through relationships, but rather refers to cooperation based on trust. First there are suitable opportunities, gradually established trust, and good results, and then there is the relationship later. I swallowed my words because I couldn't explain this chicken-and-egg philosophy to him in English.
Most middle-class people who survive in big cities climb up one step at a time. Different opportunities and personalities will bring about different achievements in your career, but the past two decades have really determined your wealth, status, and quality of life. Yes, it depends only on whether you can take on the mortgage earlier. Some people say that anxiety is self-inflicted, and you can face it calmly, but they forget to mention that many things will sound anxious if you just tell them the truth.
Your self-esteem, which has been carefully cared for since childhood, your hard study in the cold window, the expectations of your parents, the girl you miss day and night, the days and nights you work overtime despite being sick, all of them have no effect in the face of high housing prices. 985, 211, C9, Top2, all the past that you are proud of may still become worthless because you did not take on the mortgage at the right time. If you buy a house three years later, the distance between you and your classmates and colleagues at the same level may take twenty years to measure. You need to be lagging behind in a long-distance race, waiting for your opponents to reach the finish line one by one. After the award ceremony is held, do you still need to exert your final energy and enthusiasm and insist on sportsmanship to finish the race?
Why not change the track?
There is absolutely no way to accept the sunk costs brought by changing tracks, and we are even more afraid of the so-called opportunity costs brought by facing a new environment. This is normal human nature. But he may have forgotten that in a class-based environment, the rules of the game you follow can only be set by others. Everyone dreams and wants to reach the ceiling as quickly as possible, but in fact it is the floor for the rule-makers of the game. Sad or not? Heartache or not?
In fact, the so-called successful people, including scholars, entrepreneurs, scientists, and officials, are also ordinary people. Their pain lies in the conventional definition of identity. The author lives in Vancouver and has met countless big shots who may not be able to get a date in China. They are just ordinary people here. In the process of adapting to the environment, these people use the resources they control to make themselves more comfortable. Attempts to replicate the domestic lifestyle and external environment will mostly fail.
Because in this country, the definition of success is diverse. The value of a society with multiple values is that it will not give you an exact identity. You can be serious or playful. No one cares. Only when you don’t Be careful of being condescending and shouting at others, only then will someone tell you, I'm sorry, but no one cares. Because there really isn’t much difference in what people here eat, the environment they live in, the public facilities they enjoy, the level of medical care, elderly care, and education.
Contrary to immutability, people in this country particularly value the change of status. You can work as a lumberjack for 5 years, then go to college to learn programming when you are older, and work as a software engineer after a few years; you can first be a software engineer , suddenly one day I go to a shooting club and feel that I still have some talent, and then become a part-time shooting athlete; you still have many choices. The most important thing is, it does not mean that their choices have any reference significance for others, but it means that they have many opportunities to choose, at least they will not be shackled by age or previous experience.
There are three starting points in life. The first time is whether you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth; the second time is whether you have received a good higher education so that you can gain a good foothold in this highly competitive society; the third time is whether you want to Are you brave enough to step out of your biggest comfort zone and explore other unknown possibilities? And this third starting line is enough to subvert your first and second times.
Therefore, the broad possibilities in life are your real capital. When it comes to immigrating, the wealthy people definitely don’t have as many choices as those who have technical skills, English proficiency, are young and have the possibility of having children (Canada is very welcoming to young people of childbearing age). Money is important, but not that important. Having the opportunity to fill your life with all kinds of unrestricted and free choices is the only way to truly take control of your life.
Finally, I will force you to review the hot spots. The saddest thing in life is not to be ruined by everyone just because you have done something wrong. For example, if you just have poor eyesight and read a word wrong, a principal will be punished. Wanfu pointed out. Think about it carefully, because in a society with solidified classes, what level everyone should have is also solidified. If you dare to deviate even a little bit, you will inevitably become a laughing stock when you are molded into a model of knowledge and morality. Of course, we are all human beings. There is no need to deny other people's efforts because of a word. On the contrary, you can find more bad things from any normal human being.
Is this so important in a society that obeys human nature, is not so gossipy, or is accustomed to harsh criticism, and is happy to laugh at itself and enjoy itself? The answer is obvious.
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