It's another Sunday, and your biological clock tells you to wake up at 7:10 in the morning. You want to sleep for a while without being disturbed, so you blindfold yourself to make sure the alarm clock is turned off for the weekend, and habitually pick up your phone. Look at the red dots on the WeChat icon. At that moment, you actually woke up.
In fact, regardless of the weekend, no matter how tired or relaxed you are, you will probably wake up at 7:10 in the morning to turn off the 7:20 alarm clock to prevent it from ringing while you take a shower. How many people know this? I am used to waking up the alarm clock every working day.
It’s time to start work. I walk into the magnificent office building and overlook the CBD through the floor-to-ceiling glass windows. I pick up the cup and take a sip of the capsule coffee that tastes just right. I look back and see my colleagues coming in one after another. I have to bow and stand out from the crowd. Find a specific target and say hello boss with a smile!
You have spent many years of education and hard work in exchange for this job. Thinking about the past struggles makes you feel satisfied, but that satisfaction does not last long because you still have to think about the future.
My mother-in-law has hinted countless times that she can provide some financial support, but she still needs to buy a house in a school district. You can compromise on your marriage, but you must not compromise on the quality of teaching for your children who are about to enter primary school. If you lose at the starting line, you cannot let your children lose at the take-off line.
Apart from work, you have basically no social life. You hand over all your money to your wife as a token of your sincerity, but you are eager to enjoy the occasional feasting and feasting. Your elderly parents have not visited them for a long time, and most of them are handed over to the bank every month. I have to be grateful to the bank for allowing me to get into a car and have a roof over my head.
Because of your efforts, your wife is pretty good to you, and at an age when she is like a wolf about goods, it is enough to distract her attention at the end of the year. For example, don’t always ask you, when will you be promoted, and what will happen to you? Is there a better job?
Some things are certain, such as your career trajectory. The two cubicles next to you and the room next to it enclosed with a glass door will be your territory in 7 or 8 years.
Yes, but he in that cage, just like you, takes a sip of the same capsule coffee in the morning, takes a little longer to find a specific target in the crowd, and says "Good morning, boss" with a smile!
For example, if you get used to your work schedule and get used to that community, you won't want to move because the old lady at the convenience store there at least still knows you and can give you a heartwarming smile when you are tired.
You bought a car but seldom drove it. When taking the bus or subway, you had to secretly debate whether to give up your seat every time you felt dizzy. Is it more difficult for an old man or woman to get up early to buy groceries, or is it more necessary for you to sit in order to cope with this? A busy day.
There is a high probability that your daily lunch will not be cooked for you by your wife, but from a few small restaurants near the company, which exist like hermit crabs. People who eat generally order the same dishes. It's just that if there are more girls, add a non-spicy dish. If there are no girls, it will be spicy to death, and it's best to burst into tears.
After 7 or 8 years, you may be able to eat better, because you and the people around you have been promoted, and you will find that if you change the place where you eat, the feeling of eating is still the same as before.
On a windless day, the weather forecast says it will be sunny, but when you go out it turns out to be cloudy. Faced with the smog that occasionally blocks the blue sky and daylight, you can’t wait to wear a mask and yell: Is this a public toilet? Come when you want and leave when you want?
Lian Po is old, do you still play football? Can you still name the current players on your favorite team?
You may have been a literary young man or a pure science and engineering man before. When you grow up, you suddenly find that the stories you learned in the past are not necessarily complete. So you may want to try to read some books and participate in some debates, but you find that on WeChat There aren't many people who can talk to you.
Before WeChat, you might have become fair-weather brothers with him; after you have WeChat, you will find how disappointing it is to have inconsistent values. You can't even get angry, so let it go.
Even if you want to verify something or know the complete story, the operation of burning without reading may make you feel like you are drunk and fragmented when you are just trying to understand the origin, development and results of something.
Then after a period of time, someone will tell you the results and the entire process, and you don't need to expend energy to verify or think at all. You think that everything around you is mostly functioning in an orderly manner and it is not your turn to care. You just do your job well and everything is fine.
So, one day, you hear about immigration, and then soon after, your wife hears about immigration too.
After going through a lot of twists and turns, and understanding and accepting that immigration is not treason;again, after a lot of twists and turns, your wife understood that immigration is not the same as traveling abroad;again, after a lot of twists and turns, your parents, your father-in-law and mother-in-law understood and agreed that immigration is similar to the struggle of your young couple from a small county town to a first-tier city.
Then, as a young couple, you can sit down and talk about the future.
Looking at the sleeping child, of course he deserves the best. He cannot lose at the take-off line. The bottom line is that he cannot lose at the starting line. But where is this line? WeChat said that a 4-and-a-half-year-old child was disqualified from entering the kindergarten for the next year by the principal because he could not obey the instructions of the kindergarten teacher. Where is the starting line?
Thinking about the elderly parents, it was not easy to move them from a small city to a big city. It took a lot of effort to adapt to the living environment with many high-rise buildings but no local accent. However, he was too busy to take care of his children, and the gray-haired old man had to look after his grandson extremely nervously.
Think about yourself, is this the successful life you once thought you had?
Is there a possibility?
this world, is relatively fair, at least the air and food are relatively fair, and everyone can enjoy the special provisions of nature.
this world, can make you think quietly, at least no one or the media will tell you what result is officially recognized. In other words, at least no one thinks your views are outrageous or stupid.
this world, can give you a simple life, whether active or passive, so that you must return to your family and take on the responsibility of raising your children.
this world, is able to tolerate your shortcomings, respect your unsociability, and regard this as value.
this world, can give your child a brain capable of critical thinking, a novel attitude towards the world, and the courage to challenge authority.
this world, and even give you a chance to start over.
The most important thing is your own thinking and judgment.
Standing at thirty, how much expectations do you have for your own life, and at this critical moment in life, you should also think about the way to go in the future. Life has three dimensions, length, breadth and depth. Being born as a human being cannot determine the length of your life; your vision, experience and experience represent your breadth; and your depth lies in your own thoughts and cultivation.
Therefore, it cannot be said that whether you immigrate or not can determine the level of life. Immigration only brings a breadth of life, which may affect the depth of life, that's all.
Can you really make the decision to immigrate abroad? You must be very familiar with this process. Just like the ignorant young man who was rushing to take the exam, and the ambitious young man who wanted to make a big splash, your steps, from your hometown, to the provincial capital, to the magic city or the imperial capital, every time you move forward It comes from the heart, and you have never regretted every struggle.
Because now you have forgotten the obstacles you encountered at that time and can no longer remember them.
In the same way, the obstacles and hesitations you encounter now are just a repeat of the difficulties you have overcome before. I have communicated with many immigrant friends, what supports them to come out, and the answer is nothing more than two words:belief.
Fundamentally speaking, immigration is a process of exchanging time for space, a process of pursuit. Perhaps, like your love, you know the ups and downs, but as long as you have enough faith, there must be a promised land in the distance waiting for you.
If you want to put it more clearly, it is: "If you know where to go, the whole world will make way for you."
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